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When you think about death, what comes up for you?

My intention with this post isn’t to be morbid.  It is quite the opposite!

Being mindful that your time could be up at any moment is a gift.  It really is!  Carrying death on our shoulder so to speak, helps us understand the impermanence and uncertainty of life.

Yes many of us are know we’re going to die someday.  Yet a lot of us live as if we’re going to last forever.

Even if we live to be well over 100 years it is still a very short time to be here on this earth.

Often we are only faced with death when we are forced to confront it.  Perhaps a family member or one of our dear friends dies.  And whether their passing is expected or unexpected, often it will shake us up.

We are forced to deal with our own mortality.  When I die I want to go peacefully knowing that I have lived fully.  That I leave with no regrets.  And that I can look back with fondness on all the adversity I overcame.

When you die, what do you want to be able to say?  Perhaps giving yourself a forced ultimatum could help you?

Let’s say that you only have 6 months left to live… would you continue doing what you are doing every day, or would you make some radical changes?

If you would continue living as you’re living now, you are likely to be in a rare minority.  A minority that is living each day exactly how they wish. If you are not in this minority you may feel inspired to change some things about your daily life.

While the big highs and lows of our life can lift us to new heights (or lower us to new depths) it is the days in between that count most.  The ordinary, “mundane” days are the ones that make up the bulk of our lives.

So don’t for example live your life in the future, pinning all your excitement or anticipation onto one dream vacation.  Live now, every day.  This is what matters.  Now is the time that makes up the days of our lives…

Death can give us valuable perspective, if we allow it.

Peace
Carol Prentice

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This beautiful excerpt belongs to a poem by Seng-Ts’an (translated by Stephen Mitchell)

I was so inspired I had to share it…

The Great Way isn’t difficult
for those who are unattached to their preferences.
Let go or longing and aversion,
and everything will be perfectly clear.
When you cling to a hairbreadth of distinction
heaven and earth are set apart.
If you want to realize the truth,
don’t be for or against.
The struggle between good and evil
is the primal disease of the mind.
Not grasping the deeper meaning,
you just trouble your mind’s serenity.
As vast as infinite space,
it is perfect and lacks nothing
But because you select and reject,
you can’t perceive its true nature.
Don’t get entangled in the world;
don’t lose yourself in emptiness.
Be at peace in the oneness of things,
and all errors will disappear by themselves.

If you don’t live in the Tao,
you fall into assertion or denial.
Asserting that the world is real,
you are blind to its deeper reality;
denying that the world is real,
you are blind to the selflessness of all things.
The more you think about these matters,
the farther you are from the truth.
Step aside from all thinking,
and there is nowhere you can’t go.
Returning to the root, you find the meaning;
chasing appearances, you lose their source.
At the moment of profound insight,
you transcend both appearance and emptiness.
Don’t keep searching for the truth;
just let go of your opinions.

Peace
Carol Prentice

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All of us have a dark or "shadow" side and this is perfectly OK...

We all have parts of ourselves that we may not like.

Yes a darker side exists within all of us.  Perhaps just knowing this is comforting?

Sometimes it can be tiring and exhausting being the “perfect person” we strive to be all the time.

We may constantly be on guard to present only the “acceptable” aspects of ourselves that we know society approves of.

Instead of suppressing or hiding the very real parts of us, it may be kinder to acknowledge that yes there are not so nice aspects of ourselves.

And to embrace them!

I use the word embrace as in ownership and being honest.   Standing up for what you are and what you are not–warts and all without shame or apology.

There is a flip side to every quality.

For example kindness can express itself at either extreme.  At one end of the scale you may be so kind, that you act like a doormat.  At the other end of the scale you may be so selfish that you can’t think of anyone outside yourself.

Embracing our darker side doesn’t mean we use it as an excuse to avoid being and doing what we know we must.  It is about awareness and balance.

Because when we know something is seriously out of alignment, we can then work to bring it more into balance.

• If you are unsure what your darker side is, ask 10 people closest to you and ask them for their feedback

• Ask them 5 defining good qualities about you and 5 defining bad qualities about you
• (Be aware that different people can bring out different aspects of you… so place special attention on the qualities that crop up again and again from different people)

This exercise can be revealing.  It will give you something to work from in embracing and bringing the less desirable parts of yourself into a more harmonious and balanced middle ground.

Peace
Carol Prentice

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More than an attitude, being willing is an action...

If you had to choose a handful of key attitude traits, which would you choose?

For me, being willing is near the top of my list.

When we look to the bigger picture, an attitude of willingness can help get us there.  And it can help us focus on what really matters instead of sweating the small stuff.

Being willing also means that you are happy to do things you may normally complain or grumble about.  The action of being willing carries us through a lot.

Sometimes when we are willing to do something that scares us, simply being willing means that we may not even have to do that scary thing.  Or if we do have to it, it is much easier than we expect.

If you find yourself dragging your feet and would like to be more willing yet something is blocking you, please use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) to tap on the following setup phrases…

• “Even though being willing is the same to me as being a door mat and I fear people will walk all over me, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.  I now choose to see that being willing is about sacrificing something small in order to put myself first in the long term.”

• “Even though I don’t know what it means to be willing as I’ve never wanted to do anything I don’t have to do, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.  I now choose to be open to the idea of changing how I perceive things.”

• “Even though complaining about my life serves me on some level and I’m scared to give that up, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.  I now choose to look honestly at my current attitude and release my fears about adopting a more encouraging attitude.”

Being willing isn’t about forcing yourself to do something you really don’t want to do.  Being willing is about being and doing the best you can do in the bigger scheme of things.

If you are having trouble understanding what being willing means, think of someone you know who has a “can do” attitude.  Analyze what it is about their behavior that they do.

And then model the same behavior, slowly incorporating small yet deliberate changes.  More than an attitude, being willing is an action.

It is something you do, and something you do with grace.

Peace
Carol Prentice

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Self-hatred often manifests itself as critisicm of others and self rejection...

Self hatred is a strong term and it isn’t one I use lightly.

To find out if you don’t like yourself much, think about the degree to which you allow love into your life (or not).

When we don’t feel good about ourselves we may not allow others to come near us.

We may keep parts of ourselves hidden.  How much do you hide, suppress or repress parts of yourself that you don’t think are good enough?

Often if you are critical of yourself, this can manifest as criticism of others.

If you are in the habit of criticizing others, your responses are the same.  You may follow the pattern of acknowledging what someone has said or done, yet you simply can’t receive what is given.

When someone says something to you, gives you something or attempts to offer their help in some way you may reply in one of the following ways.

I can’t accept it.  I deny it.  I discount it.  I trivialize it.  I ignore it.  I don’t really need or want it.  I find fault with it.

If you find yourself stuck in the above pattern, it is nothing to be ashamed about.  It is likely you “inherited” this pattern of thinking from your parents.

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a powerful tool to clear criticism and self rejection at the root, so you can free yourself.  You will know you are clear of self hatred when your self talk is kind, compassionate and loving.

Peace
Carol Prentice

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When you look in the mirror who do you see?

When you look in the mirror who do you see?  Do you see someone you like a lot?  Do you see someone who you whole-hardheartedly accept?

Many emotional problems stem from the fact that we don’t love ourselves fully.  Nor do we accept ourselves fully.

How much do you “edit” yourself in an effort to present yourself to the world as more lovable or more acceptable?

Different people do bring out different aspects of ourselves.  Have you ever noticed that you are slightly different with different people?

In the company of certain people, we may feel more of a need to impress.  Unfortunately the more we hide our true selves, the more disconnected we will feel inside.  Pretending for a day or two probably won’t hurt us much.  Yet pretending for a lifetime will take its toll.

It isn’t fair on you.  And it isn’t fair on the people in your life.

Taken to the extreme, if we are always presenting a facade, we may no longer even recognize who we are.  We may have been pretending for so long that we’ve forgotten who we are.

If any of the above rings true for you, please use the following setup phrases to help you stay true to being you…

• “Even though I don’t feel good enough being 100% me, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.  I now choose to see myself as valuable for being exactly who I am, warts and all.”

• “Even though I am simply not important, valuable or good, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.  I now choose to leave behind these limiting beliefs that no longer serve me and embrace new beliefs that support and nurture me.”

• “Even though no one could possibly love me for who I am as I have nothing to offer, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.  I now choose to accept that loving myself is the important first step before I can allow anyone else into my life.”

Learning to love and accept ourselves more each day is one of the best things we can do for our emotional health.  It can be tough, yet if you are willing to put in the effort the benefits are very rich.  Every aspect of your life is impacted.

How you feel about yourself affects how others connect with and interact with you.  I encourage you to be who you are.

Wherever you are right now, please know that you are important.  You do matter.  You are good.  You are valuable.  And you are worthy of your own self love and acceptance!

Peace
Carol Prentice

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Does material possessions or jewellery drive your desire for money?

It may seem like an odd question, yet what you may uncover about your desire for money can be very revealing.

Many of us work longer hours than ever, pushing ourselves to the limits of productivity.  And for what?

We may deny it, yet many of us are seeking more money to keep up with our wants, needs and desires.

Personally I like money.  To me it is a form of energy that is to be shared, enjoyed and circulated.

(Yet I’m the first to admit it has taken me a long time to come to a stage where I lovingly welcome and feel peaceful with money!)

For others money may be a form of misery, worry and resentment.  It is interesting to ask yourself honestly, what drives your desire for money?

Is it so you can feel good about yourself?  Do you equate money with self worth?  Do you feel the pressure from society to protect and provide for your family?  Does the desire for money stem from a desire to feel more secure?  Do you desire fame and recognition?

Ask yourself what money brings to you?  Is it material possessions?  Is it the ability to buy an experience?  Or is it to satisfy inner emotional drives that you may be unaware of?

There are many ways to satisfy your desire for what you think money brings, without even involving money.

For example if you identify that money brings security, ask yourself what you can do for yourself to make yourself feel more secure?

I suggest you sit down and brainstorm your desires surrounding money.  When you look honestly and closely at what drives your desires you will unearth many financial blocks.

Yet you will find hidden gems, among the blocks.  Many answers that you come up with will have nothing whatsoever to do with money.  And this is a very liberating insight indeed.

Peace
Carol Prentice

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