The word relationship comes from the word ‘relate‘. How well do we relate to others? What we hear & read about relationships influences us. But I think the most powerful conditioning on what is & isn’t expected in a relationship, comes from what we were exposed to when we were growing up.
We often model (act out) what our parents were like – subconsciously. I remember when my wife & I were first married & we stayed with her parents for a month after we’d just arrived in NZ from England. I understood where many of her expectations came from as these were also shared by my in-laws. When I pointed this out to her, she was stunned.
She then used EFT to tap away beliefs that were not serving her. She recognised those were her parents beliefs & not hers. She’d quietly taken them on & acted them out with me in our marriage.
Somtimes it’s easier for others to observe this as they come from a more objective place. Ask your partner (nicely!) to share with you how they think you are similar to your parents.
Listen carefully to what your partner says & decide if what you are hearing could be true. If so, is this belief or pattern serving you? If not, tap on each one as you are made aware.