The shorter the better (ideally no more than 3-5 words). Research has shown a single word repeated can affect the emotional state of an individual. A set of words that contain the same meaning and then sequenced individually, will be more powerful than a complex sentence detailing the intention.
Use phrases that say what you want (not what you don’t want). Sometimes this is easier said than done. The trick is to avoid words such as “don’t, no, non, no longer, not”
Create positive emotion whenever possible. Get excited about the change you are aiming towards. Use phrases such as “I enjoy… I love… I am excited to… I welcome… I embrace…”
Do not lie to yourself. If you know it is not possible for you to be a millionaire – do not put it on your list. Instead create choices or acknowledge change such as “In 2009 I choose to be… I allow myself to… I am becoming …” These are more believable to your mind than straight lies. Lies meet mental resistance and create disharmony. They force the brain to focus on the reasons why the message is not true – the opposite of your desired result.
Avoid being vague. Set specific, achievable, well defined goals for yourself. Don’t say to yourself “I am thin” say instead, “By the end of 2009 I now choose to weigh 65kg”
6. Present Tense
Phrase your words in the present tense. Don’t say, “I am going to… I wish I were…” Instead say “I am now…” Your subconscious mind does not understand the difference between present and future. Use this to your advantage by phrasing things in the now.
We’re approaching 2009 fast… I understand it’s easier to make, rather than keep New Year resolutions. EFT can help…
Stuck for ideas for what you could resolve to do in the new year? Here are 7 common resolutions:
Be more healthy (reduce drinking, stop smoking, lose weight, get fit)
Spend more time with loved ones
Save more money or get out of debt
Be more charitable with your time
Learn a new skill or hobby
Become more organised
Slow down & enjoy life more
‘Even though I never keep my New Year’s resolutions, I deeply & completely love & accept myself. I choose to believe this year can be different’
‘Even though I don’t know what resolution is reasonable & what is fanciful, I deeply & completely love & accept myself. I choose to be truthful with myself. Deep down I know what is realistic & what is not’
‘Even though I don’t see any point in commiting to any resolutions, I deeply & completely love & accept myself. I choose to understand resolutions can provide a useful structure for the outline of my yearly goals’
“When you find peace withing yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others” Author Unknown
I think many of us would appreciate more peace in our lives. However true peace is not something that can be searched for externally. It has to be cultivated within. Peace already exists inside us – we just need to grow more of it.
These EFT set-up statements will help you find your own peace:
‘Even though I am just not the sort of person who is peaceful, I deeply & completely love & accept myself. I choose to practise being peaceful every day, building up my ‘peace muscle’ bit by bit’
‘Even though I don’t have time to grow peace inside of me, I deeply & completely love & accept myself. I choose to understand that inner peace will infiltrate every aspect of my life. It is worth me finding the time’
‘Even though I don’t see the point of practising being peaceful on a daily basis, I deeply & completely love & accept myself. I choose to see all the benefits. I know I can deal with any conflict, person or situation in a peaceful manner’
I came across this Abraham-Hicks excerpt about the perfect human relationship & thought I’d share with you…
“If you really want to find the perfect human relationship, look for someone who is cat-like…
Likes to be alone and happy to be with you. Happy when you are there and happy when you’re not there.
Licks your face occasionally. Will take all the scratching and petting you are willing to offer.
Feels secure. Sleeps when it feels like it.
Hunts when he feels like it. Basks often.
Meditates regularly. Never feels guilty, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER!
Does emphatically what he wants to do. Is always glad to see you.
Never cares when you leave.
Should you change your beliefs? This question is entirely up to you. Are you happy where your life is at? Do you feel yourself in a place where you wouldn’t change a thing? If so good for you!
On the otherhand you may feel unhappy where your life is at. You may feel uneasy with every aspect of your life. Despite these unhappy feelings you still may not want to change your beliefs.
These EFT Set-Up Statements may help…
‘Even though it takes too much effort & hard work to actively change my beliefs, I deeply & completely love & accept myself. I choose to do nothing until I have true motivation’
‘Even though I feel pressured to change my beliefs, I deeply & completely love & accept myself. I choose to act only when I decide to. The decision is entirely mine’
‘Even though I feel uncertain if I should change my beliefs or not, I deeply & completely love & accept myself. I choose to weigh up if the benefits of changing my beliefs are worth the effort it takes’
It take courage to change your way of thinking. You are inevitable going to come up against opposition from those closest to you – those who claim to have ‘your best interests at heart’. Often your family & friends are going to be the most resistant to you changing.
Why? Becasue it feels uncomfoartable for them to see you thinking & doing things differently. People like & trust what is familiar to them. If they see you changing, they may feel threatened. It challenges the way they think of themselves. Some may even take what you are trying to do personally.
By your wanting to change, your family & friends may feel you are criticising them. That perhaps they are under scrutiny. This is the time when you are going to have to be really tough.
This may be harder than you think. You may have to be ‘alone‘ for a bit while you adjust & become stronger inside. You may feel extreme discomfort & feeling abandoned by those closest to you. Remember these people may feel jealous you are trying to better yourself & try to drag you back down to where you were before.
‘Before’ will feel familiar & safe – & therefore secure. Don’t fall into the comfort trap. You are going to have to decide whether it is worth the backlash you may experience against the rewards of changing what you think. Those who have successfully changed their thoughts & therefore their circumstances have never regretted living their dreams. Will you regret not trying?
I encourage you to have guts. And to attempt fearlessly.
Use EFT to tap on any discomfort as you go through the process of actively changing your thinking.