I don’t know why… but a lot of us want to be perfect the first time around. Why are we so scared to ‘fail’ in order to master something? The consequences are huge. This means we don’t even attempt a lot of things. How about making the commitment to ‘have a go’?These EFT Set-up Statements will help…
|‘Even though I am scared to try what I’d like to do (as I may not be good at it) I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I choose to understand ‘not being good at it’ is part of the learning process’
‘Even though I’m afraid I’ll look foolish and be judged by others for what I try to do, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I choose to put my needs first – and not worry about the judgements of others’
‘Even though I don’t want to make any mistakes, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I choose to know it is more important to attempt fearlessly than to do nothing’
Some would argue there is no such thing as a ‘mistake’. Everthing we do we can learn from – even if this means repeating the same mistake several times. Perhaps each time we repeat this same mistake there is something new to learn.We can also learn from other people’s mistakes. In this way we can learn the lesson from them and avoid the consequences of that action.
I do think mistakes are part of how we grow and evolve. It would be a dull existance indeed if we never made any mistakes.
These EFT Set- Up Statements are revelant to making mistakes…
|‘Even though I am stuck in the pattern of making the same mistake ver and over – I can’t seem to get out of it, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I choose to understand perhaps the lessons I keep learning are of such value. This is why it’s necessary for me to keep repeating this mistake.’
‘Even though I don’t see the point in learning from other people’s mistakes, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I choose to see the wisdom in learning of the consequence without having to experience the acual deed.’
‘Even though I’m scared to live fully and freely becasue I might make a mistake, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I choose to grow and evolve to the highest of my potential – even if this involves making mistakes.’
If you are NOT living who you want to be, you will probably feel uneasy and anxious. You may put it down to any number of things… low quality sleep, not exercising, a poor diet, your job – anything but the REAL TRUTH.
If you listen honestly to what you want and act in accordance with what you would like to be – you will create this in your life. If you ignore and bury your desires you will not create this in your life (no matter how much ‘wanting’ and ‘pining’ for it you may exhibit). You will also NEVER be truly happy.
These EFT Set-Up Statements will help…
|‘Even though I have been ignoring, suppressing and hiding my true desires, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I choose to be honest with myself and pay attention to my nagging desires’
‘Even though when I really listen to my desires I feel so scared by them as this will mean massive change for me and I feel so fearful about this, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I choose to embrace change slowly, knowing my life doesn’t have to get in line with my real deisres over night. This can take the rest of my life-time, but as long as I’m commited to my real desires I am peaceful’
Albert Schweitzer says, “To educate yourself for the feeling of gratitude means to take nothing for granted, but to always seek out and value the kind that will stand behind the action. Nothing that is done for you is a matter of course. Everything originates in a will for the good, which is directed at you. Train yourself never to put off the word or action for the expression of gratitude.”
I think this is a great quote. Yes gratitude has been drummed into us left, right and centre. But do we express gratitude enough? Sometimes verbally expressing your praise instead of just thinking it can have a profound effect on another person.
I remember when my wife approached a lady in our local supermarket carpark, and told her how beautiful her scarf was. I watched this lady flush with pleasure. A sincere and spontaenous gesture of gratitude for anything at all makes not only the recipient feel good but all those that witness the event.
Never delay an opportunity to express gratitude. Make it a daily habit so it becomes automatic and so much engrained in who you are.
What do you do when you are frothing at the mouth and fuming over something? Directing your heated energy into something constructive is a good idea. So is EFT…
|‘Even though I am so angry, irritated and frustrated about ______, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I choose to dissolve my anger.’
‘Even though I am bursting with anger and I don’t know how to constructively dissolve it, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I choose to either remove myself from the situation or accept it. I know that every action falls into these 2 groups.’
‘Even though I don’t know how this situation has come into my life and I’m mad about it, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I choose to realise every situation has purpose, even though I can’t see that now.’
Sometimes we find ourselves in tricky situations. We may think we have limited or no options. When this is the case I recommend waiting a bit. This may feel uncomfortable for you. But it is worth it.
With time often a different solution will present itself to you. A solution you never thought possible, but which is so perfect. This is especially gratifying as the other solutions you had thought of are not what you feel good about. So if you can, practise patience!
These EFT Set-Up Statements can help…
|‘Even though no solution I can think of seems like the ‘right one’ for my problem, I deeply & completely love and accept myself. I choose to be patient and trust that another, better solution will make itself known to me’
‘Even though there is no time to wait for a solution as I have to act immediately, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I choose to sit through my discomfort, as a solution will present itself – even if it seems like the last hour!’‘Even though I don’t trust the universe to present me with a solution to my problem, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I choose to suspend belief and trust that everything and everyone is supporting me’
This post is lifted from the Changing Your Beliefs Blog. Sometimes we chase what we think we want, when really these are just a cover for our real hidden desires. We can (unknowingly) hide what we really want in the attaintment of certain experiences or external objects.
I’m sure you have heard that when people want more money, it is often more security and freedom they are really chasing.
Thankfully a lot of what we are really want we can satisfy without external objects. Be honest with yourself and identify what you are really striving for (there are often several). Then ask yourself how can you best achieve whatever state really drives you.
This will save you time and effort. You will not be chasing something that leaves you feeling empty and hollow.
Brian Tracey identifies these drives:
|to be admiredto be liked,
to be successful,
to be healthy,
to have respect,
to have recognition,
to have social status,
to be up-to-date & current,
to have power,
to hold influence,
to be popular,
for self expression,
for self actualisation,
to not miss out
for self preservation